I started wearing only jocks under my gym sweatpants or shorts all year round a few years back. I was never worried about it til one day two years ago when it all changed. I was heading in for a HIIT style workout class mid summer on a Tuesday evening. Sun was still out and it was pretty hot. I had just finished a super busy day of detailing cars for clients and knew I wasn’t going to have time to go home and change so I threw my gym clothes on the back seat and went right to the gym when I finished work. I changed in the bathroom and class was starting. I hadn’t tied my shorts up yet as I was running back out to put my work clothes back in the truck. As I came back in I pulled my tank top up to tie my shorts, which are not short shorts. They stop just short of my knees and while they’re snugly fitter they’re not tight or revealing. As I was tying my shorts, my jock band was visible just barely, I usually wear two inch bands or narrower because anything bigger in the waist band just isn’t comfortable for me. so my waist band was just barely visible and I didn’t think anyone could tell it was a jock nor did I really care. But this absolute dickhead who had just joined our gym and no one liked, including our gym owner, decided he was gonna be the one to call me out for wearing a jock. He said “wow is that a jockstrap?!?! Only faggots that take it up the butt where those….” I was floored as everyone I workout with, are all friends and we treat each other with respect and we all encourage each other. And there was a full class he said that in front of… And no one ever had an issue before or after with how I dress. Which is very modest. I looked back at him and simply said, “if my choice in underwear that gives me support bothers you so much than you must be deeply insecure with issues of your own to sort out….” And then took my spot in class and proceeded to ignore him. But thankfully my gym owner had had enough of him after only a week of him being a member and pissing everyone off, that the owner kicked him out then and there and banned him from ever coming back. I was thankful for that but as a result I ensure that my pants and shorts always stayed tied snugly around my waist and that the band is not visible. I wear long enough t shirts that no matter the exercise we’re doing, the shirt isn’t going to pull up and expose my waistline. Now during summer when I wear a jock under my O’Neill hybrid shorts that I work in I do the exact same thing. Shorts and shirts always cover me up when I’m bending down to grab things, or holding the low end of a squat while working on low sitting panels, or sitting cross legged on the ground in front of a wheel to get it cleaned up and I’m super careful to not let it show.
ironically though I had a funny occurrence regarding my jock band two summers ago on vacation at lake Mojave on a boating trip. I had rented a small studio type space from long time family friends on the downstairs level of their house after losing my apartment during Covid. Their whole family takes a week long boating trip to lake Mojave every year and had invited both my mom and I several years in a row to tag along. So I had towed my mom’s boat out there behind my truck with her and spent the week handling all the boat stuff and being boat captain since she’s not as skilled at it as I am. We had just gone on a little cruise run and we’re climbing out of boats at our cove spot on the beach and as I handed a cooler off to someone and leaned over to grab something else my waist band poked out of my board shorts on my back. The husband of the couple that I lived with yelled, “why are you wearing a jockstrap!?!?” He definitely did not mean it to be mean he was trying to be funny and also genuinely curious as to why I wasn’t commando under my trunks when it was 115 degrees and we were on the lake all day. I had a quick witted moment and yelled back “ because having non support for my huge dick and big low hanging balls sucks hardcore when we’re swimming!!!” Everyone busted up laughing on the beach including him…. Because they all have that kinda sense of humor. My mom thought it was only slightly funny but pretty crude. I was in that “I’m on vacation and have no shame” kinda mood. She asked me later about it when we got back to the hotel, and she knows wear them after seeing them in my laundry bin years back, when I started hitting the gym… I’m responed with “well they’re for athletic activities and that’s exactly what we were doing….. whatever mom I’m an adult and can pick my own underwear thanks…….” lol.
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Good stories! A lot to talk about!
In your first bully story, the guy was a real asshole.
“Wow is that a jockstrap?!?! Only faggots that take it up the butt wear those….”
I have never had this happen to me, but I have seen things like this happen. The bully wanted to prove his manhood by making a public announcement that put you down, with everyone listening. He was using you to try and put himself at the top of the pecking ladder of the group.
You had a good comeback telling him that he had some mental problems. Good for you! Know that you don't have to explain yourself; doing so can sound like an apology. You only have to prove that if he gives you shit, that your confidence will be unshaken, and he will have to take some shit back from you.
Body language and voice tone is 93% of communication. Words only count for 7%. No matter what words you use, your countenance will tell him what he needs to know about you; that you will not be at the bottom of the pecking ladder. (You don't take it up the butt, so to speak.)
Other things you could have said back to him:
"It sounds like you had a bad experience. I hope your butt is feeling better soon!"
"Who died and made YOU the underwear police?"
"The word going around is that someone saw you wearing a pink thong. Is that true?"
"Why don't you show everybody what you wear, and get your nose out of my crotch, you sex freak!"
"As a result I ensure that my pants and shorts always stayed tied snugly around my waist and that my jockstrap waist band is not visible.
It sounds like you go to a lot of effort to make sure your jock doesn't show. I'm sorry you feel like that. It's not good for a man's confidence to feel that he has to go around worrying and hiding. Don't accept that low position for yourself, because your fear will show 24/7. Work on that, bro. "Cowboy-up!"
I relish in letting my jock show. But, I had a jock-wearing Dad and I grew up wanting to be like him. If you feel good about yourself, you won't be so bruised when some asshole looks for a reason to mock you. Perhaps that is why I wear jocks every day, and everyone knows it, yet nobody ever mocked me once. I am not the kind of guy that radiates fear or insecurity.
Your friend yelled,
“Why are you wearing a jockstrap!?!?” It was 115 degrees. (Balls can hang dangerously low at 115 degrees! He may not have figured it out, but going commando greatly slaughters the sensitivity of a circumcised glans. But, you don't have to explain all that.)
I yelled back
“ Because having non-support for my huge dick and big low hanging balls sucks hardcore when we’re swimming!!!” Everyone busted up laughing on the beach including him.
Great answer! You can have a small cock and balls, and as a man you are expected to make big claims. Alpha males expect that among each other! You only have to prove your self-determination. Well done!
Response to your Mom:
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Well they’re for athletic activities and that’s exactly what we were doing…..
Good answer! Men can be just as energetic doing manual labor, anything outdoors, or just having fun, and be moving around as much as they would at a gym. It unreasonable to think that jocks are only for the times when you are in organized athletic events or at a gym with lockers and uniforms. Some ranchers and working men wear jocks as their only underwear all the time. I never met a cowboy or lumberjack who wore boxers or went commando.
You did not mention having a Dad in your life. My Dad taught me to wear jocks for underwear. Wearing a jock takes really good care of your balls. I am 80 years old. My testosterone is as high as a 20-30 year olds and I have sex 5 times a week. And I look 15 years younger than my age. My health is fantastic.
Men's health starts weakening when your testosterone starts dropping. The better you take care of your balls, the longer they will produce testosterone and keep you strong, fit, young, healthy and with a high libido.
It this generation does not understand the value of taking care of your balls, then let it be their loss. This generation of young men has testosterone 50% below normal; sperm counts 60% below normal. Only 20% are fit for military service. Half of all high school boys have no father in their homes.
There are many reasons for the diminishing masculinity of young American men today. Not wearing jocks is only a small part of the problem. Fight for your masculinity in every way you can, including wearing a jockstrap whenever you want. Tell critics that an alpha male stud advised you that jocks are the best thing for your testosterone and manhood.
"Mom, I’m an adult and can pick my own underwear thanks…”
Another possible response:
"Mom, God hung the balls on me. My balls can tell me what makes them happy. Thanks for your help all these years, but have man's genitals now, and it's time for me to pick out my own big boy underwear. If I had a dad, he could explain it to you.
PS I enjoyed your sharing. But, please, please, next time don't give us a wall of words. Most guys aren't going to try and read it because it is impossible for the human eye to follow all those words without any line breaks. Please leave a paragraph space every 3 sentences or so. Thanks!